From Worry to Support: Navigating the Unknown

From Worry to Support: Navigating the Unknown

Uncertainty is one of the hardest things to sit with, especially when it involves someone we love. As parents, caregivers, and even friends, we want to ensure the best for those we care about. When we suspect that something may not be as expected—such as a child missing milestones—it’s natural to worry. The mind races with worst-case scenarios, fear takes hold, and focus on anything else becomes nearly impossible.

Recently, a mother shared her concerns about her child not meeting developmental milestones. She was overwhelmed with worry, questioning if she had done something wrong, and struggling to focus at work. She had upcoming assessments but felt consumed by anxiety over what they might reveal. In moments like these, it can be helpful to take a step back and reframe the situation.

The reality is, her child is already who she is. The assessments won’t change that—they will simply provide more information to help the mother understand her child better and learn how to support her in the best way possible. Rather than signaling failure or wrongdoing, this process is about gathering knowledge, not altering reality.

Too often, we approach uncertainty with the belief that if we worry enough, we can somehow control the outcome. But worry doesn’t change the facts; it only drains energy and keeps us from being present in the moment. Shifting from "What if something is wrong?" to "How can I best support them?" allows us to focus on what is truly within our power.

The truth is, none of us are in complete control of how others develop, grow, or face challenges. What we can do is provide support, seek knowledge, and adapt in ways that help those we love thrive as their best selves. The unknown is always daunting, but sometimes, it is simply the beginning of understanding—an opportunity to learn, adjust, and show up in the ways that matter most.